We all go through unsettling times in our lives. When you are going through a stressful period, it may cascade into bigger, and harder struggles when you lose control. Being so out of balance with oneself can lead to stress and anxiety, which can manifest in many ways, capable of altering your life completely.
When we are struggling internally, it affects every aspect of our lives – career, finances, relationships, and health – which further pushes our morale down. That’s why it’s imperative to take charge of yourself at the right time and seek help if necessary to bring the balance back to your life.
If you are at a point in life where the wealth of your life experience is not enough to pull you out of your struggle and remind you of your self-worth, life coaching can be a game-changer. A little assistance from a certified life coach may be all you need to rediscover your self-worth and bring back balance into your life.
So how do you know if you need to ask for help? In this blog, we discuss 5 warning signs that our resident life coach Helen Pleic has noted over the years with her patients.
Stage 1: Running on low energy
Are you finding it hard to get up from your bed in the morning? Do you feel tired all the time, but not sure what’s wrong with you? Low energy and fatigue are some of the first signs of living dealing with an unhappy, unbalanced life. Your feelings of sadness and stress physically manifest as tiredness and cause you to spend days with low energy and lack motivation. Sometimes, you don’t even realise how dull you have become, dragging yourself through your job and daily chores.
Often, it is the people around you who are the ones to notice that you are tired all the time. Your lacklustre actions start affecting your relationships and work performance, leading to more criticism, which may add to your building stress. If you can wake up from your stupor at this initial point and seek help from our life coach, you will be able to get your life back on track before things take a turn for the worse.
Stage 2: Everything becomes uncertain
As you start spiraling and losing control over your life, everything around you becomes uncertain. You become doubtful of your words and actions and start getting anxious over every aspect of your life. Unlike the little dose of anxiety that usually helps us get things in order, your new levels of anxiety may render you unable to go about with your everyday routines. Our life coach notes that people in this stage also start experiencing other physical difficulties like breathing troubles, headaches, muscle strain, and in worst cases, depression.
Stage 3: Escape from reality
Escaping from reality is a defense mechanism that your mind plays to avoid facing mounting issues. You may have noticed that things are taking a turn for the worse and decide to take a little time off by running away from your responsibilities. Although it may seem like a nice idea at the time, it is nothing but a temporary solution to your actual issue.
For some people, this break may help them heal independently and free their minds from daily clutter. But in most cases, this may prove an ineffective tactic. You are not mending the situation by running away from your problems, whether it is your shaky relationships or struggling career, but making it worse. Taking a break from reality as your troubles pile up will dismiss your strength to face the challenges coming your way.
Stage 4: Living in negativity
Every one of us lives with a little negativity; it is human nature. However, as your spiral out of control, negativity becomes your only friend. When you live in negativity, you lose hope and enthusiasm to go on about your daily life. Even if you manage to do something right, the negativity filling inside you will always seek the downside. You may refrain from taking credit for good work or react rudely and without thinking.
Negative people are also pessimists. They lose their ability to find the good in any situation. As critical thoughts are all you have, it induces tension and increases stress hormone production, ultimately affecting your general health.
Stage 5: Going into a shell
The most dangerous sign of all is going incommunicado. Humans are social beings. We live and thrive by communicating with others for our needs and wants. So if a person who has always been pleasantly chatty goes into a shell and remains there for a long time, it’s concerning.
If you were the kind of person, who enjoyed the company very much at one point but has felt withdrawn from everything lately, including talking to your loved ones, remember that it is a red flag. While the reason for your reclusive behaviour could be anything from extreme stress to physical ailments, it is necessary to look at it objectively and determine if it’s a passing phase or a serious one needing help. Realising that you have a problem is the first step towards healing.
Take away
Everyone goes through tough situations in life. You may lose your job or a loved one, hit financial difficulties, experience extreme stress at work or in your relationships- all these are curveballs you may face in life. But whatever the reason, you should be able to bounce back to your usual self without spiraling and losing control over life. If you feel like you are out of sorts, confused, or exhausted to make a sound decision, you may need a little help and a fresh perspective, which our life coach can provide. So, take your next step towards healing today. Book an appointment for a life coaching session with Helen Pleic at our wellness centre in Dubai today.
